5 Ways To Have The Perfect First Date

You have been looking for someone to share your life with and have been enjoying getting to know new people, messaging and connecting with them on the free dating site you have been using. Now you’ve finally made arrangements to meet someone for your very first date – and you want it to go spectacularly. But how are you able to achieve this?

There are many ways to have the perfect first date – making that man or woman want to see you again – but I have whittled them down to just a handful. Hopefully if you take notice of them, they will help you to make sure your date goes off well and you have them interested in getting to know you even better.

Whether you use a site like welovedates.com or another, you are bound to find some like minded single men and women who are looking for the same things. With you both looking for the same things – and probably having similar interests if you get to know each other a little better and connect, this is something you want to consider when thinking about your date. You want to make sure that it is something you will both enjoy – you don’t want either one of you feeling rubbish and not enjoying yourself, this doesn’t bode well for a second date – and any more consecutive dates. So what can you do to ensure your first date goes swimmingly?

Choose The Perfect Place

It sound so simple but location really is everything. First of all, you have to remember that no matter how long you have been talking online to this person, you don’t know them from Adam. Choose somewhere that is public should the date go awry but in a location that is enjoyable to both of you in case the date goes really, really well. If you are both movie buffs, perhaps consider the local cinema or if you are both foodies, head to the most prestigious restaurant in your area. This way, you are exploring your interests together whilst also considering your safety in such a situation.

Ask For Suggestions

It shouldn’t be up to just one of you to set up the date – both of you need to make an input so this is where suggestions come in. As I mentioned above, location is everything – so chat about the things you enjoy, make suggestions and finally settle on somewhere that both of you can agree on. Don’t completely take the lead or let them completely take the lead – it means the date will be tipped slightly in their favour as they are making all the decisions and you may not enjoy yourself as your thoughts may not have been taken into consideration.

Have A Plan B

Sometimes our best kept plans can go awry and this is exactly why you should always have a backup plan. The point of a first date is to impress each other so if you both feel that the location of the date or something similar isn’t right, take it somewhere else. Some people can’t be themselves without some background chatter so a bar may be more their scene than a cinema – it is all about working out what is right for you and your date and making sure you are both comfortable.

Keep The Conversation Flowing

Talk about yourself, ask questions about them. Don’t talk overly about yourself but don’t completely focus on them – some people won’t like it. What should you talk about on a first date? Compliment them, talk about the day you’ve had and anything that may have happened on your way to the date – as long as it is interesting, of course! – and ask how their day was. Chat about your surroundings, about things you notice – the food in the restaurant, the drinks at the bar. You can make a conversation out of everything so give it a try!

Alone Time Is Key

Once you’re sure that the date has gone well and you feel safe and secure and that a second date is what you want, then you need to secure some alone time. When you are in a bar, a restaurant, a cinema, it can seem like you are the only two people there but this is rarely the case and getting some alone time with each other at the end of the date is a surefire way to find out if you two are going to head out on another date and just how your date feels about you. It is literally the best way to evaluate a date and see whether there is any potential for the future. Perhaps walk each other to your cars or take a walk down the street together to the Tube – if a spark is there, something is bound to happen after the date – but who will make the first move?

These are just a few tips and of course there are many more. Will you be taking any of these on board?


My Worst Date

I’ve been quite lucky when it comes to dates – I’ve never really had a bad one, per se – and it has never been the fault of either of us when it has gone a little awry. But I thought I’d tell you a little about my worst date.

I had been seeing someone local for a little while but it was very on/off and we only really got to see each other at in the local pub or around our working times. We decided we finally needed to do something just us so were going to head into town, do some light shopping then grabbing a bite to eat together. All was going well, we got into town and then we bumped into an acquaintance – a sort of friend of mine and an ex fling of his. Awkward straight away, right? What’s worse is that she seemed to be on her own and before I knew it, she was tagging along with us.

We couldn’t seem to shake her off despite us trying to subtly suggest it and in the end we ended up saying we needed to go back home for some reason and we all headed our separate ways with me meeting him down the local pub later where – yes, we got to spend time together but once again, all our friends were hanging around so we didn’t get any time on our own. Seeing each other isn’t great if you never ever get some time on your own.

I suppose I am quite lucky in being able to call this my worst date – after all, it isn’t really that bad – we just had a hanger on and had to make other arrangements that didn’t really suit us. But it certainly wasn’t the greatest thing at the time and left me feeling rather annoyed. However I have heard of plenty of people having much worse dates than me – I recently read a post from another blogger who found out the guy who’d given her his number was in a very serious relationship and another blogger had a first date with a guy who was horrible – a casual racist, a body shamer. My worst date story pales into comparison when you consider those.

This is why I think online dating is so great. You can talk to someone for ages before agreeing to meet so you can really get to know them (well, as much as you can behind a screen behind a device after all) before actually meeting up with them. I can see why so many single men and women are giving online dating a try – especially the sites in their local area. They get to meet like minded people who are looking for exactly the same things. Isn’t that just the best way to try to find love?

You can get dating locally on these sites: dating in Shetland, Berkshire singles, date Isle of Man singles, dating in Staffordshire and Norwich singles. This is where I would certainly be looking if I was single!


Top Tips When Dating Locally

Dating locally can be a very positive thing. You both already know the area and can make informed decisions about where to go. But here are some top tips when dating someone who lives locally to you.

Dating locally can be difficult. It can be hard to find the one without potential prior misconceptions you may have – after all, some people have reputations that proceed them.

With the possibility of knowing most of the people who live in your area, it can be almost impossible to meet anyone you truly connect with and don’t have any prior misconceptions about. But it can happen so keep the faith.

So many people ask how to meet single men and women locally. Quite obviously you need to get out there, get interacting with people. You know how misconceptions work so don’t let people make them about you. Let people decide for themselves.

You should also try something different. Don’t let people have expectations – surprise them. Yes, there is only so much you can do within a small local area but just making the effort will go down well. It may be tempting to go for that meal at the local must eat at restaurant but why not try one of those more unique eateries? Why not try something unique that your local area has to offer? If you make a habit of dating local people, you don’t really want them comparing notes, do you?

Don’t worry about the small stuff. Get out there and have fun and don’t take yourself too seriously. Don’t make rash judgements and hope they don’t either. You don’t want to put too much pressure on yourself because that could cause problems in the long run and everyone will be uncomfortable. Be confident in yourself and your date and have a good time.

Don’t listen to others, make sure to make your own decisions. One of the problems with dating in a small fairly confined area is the possibility that everyone knows everyone else and that includes their business too. Whether that business be true or not – people will often pre judge based on what they have heard. Even if you don’t personally know the person you are meeting for a date and they don’t personally know you, chances are you probably have mutual friends and have possibly heard about each other. These things that you have heard may not be true so give them the chance.  Don’t listen to what other people say and make your own decisions about each other. Starting a date off with pre judgement based on what you’ve heard can only go one really bad way so make sure you go in without any prior judgement and enjoy it for what it is.

Do you have any tips for dating locally?

Here are some local dating sites that may be close to you that you can check out: dating Cheshire, dating Lothian, dating Belfast, dating Gloucester and dating Hampshire.

How To Nail Online Dating When Its New To You

Despite online dating having been around for years now, there are still some people out there who haven’t given it a try.

But there are some tips out there for all those newbies taking their first tentative steps into the online dating world. Here are just a few:

Ask A Friend For Help

You probably won’t know how to talk about yourself, to big yourself up. If you do, it is likely you will overdo it and perhaps come off a little arrogant, boastful and perhaps untruthful. Enlisting a friend to help you means that they will be able to capture the real you in words and write you a cracking profile that makes people pay attention.

Give It Time

Don’t expect people to come flocking to your inbox straight away – that is very unlikely to happen. Get to know and interact with others – make time for internet dating and you’ll see where it can lead to. Filling out your whole profile takes time and so does chatting with other members – give it time and wait for the results.

Safety First

No matter how much you want to meet someone, remember to always keep safe. Report anyone that makes you feel uncomfortable to the site moderators/admin so that they can deal with them if they see a need to. Don’t agree to meet someone for the first time in a deserted place – choose crowded places like bars and maybe see if you can take a friend with you. Also don’t give out personal details willy nilly. People can be anyone behind a computer screen – not who they say they are. If ever suspicious, Google Reverse Image Search their picture to be sure that it possibly is them and not some photo they have pulled off the internet.

Make Sure You’ve Got Some Photos

Make those photos flattering – but not untruthful. You don’t want a photo of yourself up there that makes you look awful but you also don’t want to be using so many filters that people wouldn’t recognise you in real life. Have photos of you – looking friendly and happy – and make sure you post more than one.

Have fun!

Finally, remember to have fun. The dating world can be daunting and stressful so try not to take it too seriously. Just see where the whole experience takes you. You could potentially meet the person of your dreams. You may not. You may meet some lifelong friends or someone you choose to have some fun with without the worries of a proper relationship. You know exactly what you want from joining a dating site so enjoy the journey as you work towards getting what you want – and meet plenty of new people along the way that could enrich your life in some way.

Do you have any tips for online dating when you’re new to the whole experience?

*Try some local sites if you are still looking for love – try dating in Northamptonshire, dating in Warwickshire, dating in Cumbria, dating in Staffordshire and dating in Hertfordshire if you are in any of these areas.


Can You Keep The Love Alive After Valentines Day?

Valentines Day can make or break a couple – it can show some couples if their other half is truly committed and it can show others that they are totally flogging a dead horse and it is better to end the relationship now than to try and go the distance and fail miserably.

You have men and women who will go all out for their partner, those who put in minimal effort and those who didn’t even bother at all – or claim they forgot (when how can they, it isn’t like it is so commercially pushed straight after Christmas Day…). Hopefully though, you don’t need Valentines Day to show your partner how much you love them – you make the time to show them every single day.

But how can you keep the love, the passion, the romance alive after a day like Valentines Day? Here are some quick tips that you could potentially take advantage of.

Know What Each Other Means

Yes it would be easier to be straight talking but some people just don’t work like that – and you really have to know them to understand what they mean. Knowing what each other intends and actually means is key to ensuring your relationship lasts the distance.

Write unexpected cute notes and texts

Leave little notes where they least expect to find them. Brighten up their day with words about why you love them.

It doesn’t need to be Valentines Day to give gifts

Gifts aren’t expected but doesn’t it always feel great to receive a gift – especially if we aren’t expecting it? Perhaps your partner has seen a new book they want to read. Why not grab it for them and gift it to them one day when you know they aren’t feeling 100%? They will be so grateful that you were so thoughtful and bought a gift that you knew they wanted.

Surprise Them

I don’t just mean with gifts but with dates, days out, spontaneous cooking for them. Everyone loves a surprise – no matter how many people protest this, we all know its true- and nothing beats doing something spectacular that we weren’t expecting. A hot air balloon ride for two is a lovely surprise as is a meal at the restaurant you had your first date at. These surprises show that you like to make an effort for your partner and that these things mean as much to them as they do to you.

These are just a few ways you can keep the love alive after Valentines Day – do you have any other tips for how you can let Valentines Day help you as a couple – rather than potentially hinder you as it does so many others? I’d love to hear them – lets keep those fires burning long into 2018 and further.


*If you are still looking for love, try sites local to you such as the Merseyside dating sites, Humberside dating sites, Glasgow dating sites, Buckinghamshire dating sites and Guernsey dating sites. There’s bound to be a local dating site suitable for you.