You have been looking for someone to share your life with and have been enjoying getting to know new people, messaging and connecting with them on the free dating site you have been using. Now you’ve finally made arrangements to meet someone for your very first date – and you want it to go spectacularly. But how are you able to achieve this?
There are many ways to have the perfect first date – making that man or woman want to see you again – but I have whittled them down to just a handful. Hopefully if you take notice of them, they will help you to make sure your date goes off well and you have them interested in getting to know you even better.
Whether you use a site like welovedates.com or another, you are bound to find some like minded single men and women who are looking for the same things. With you both looking for the same things – and probably having similar interests if you get to know each other a little better and connect, this is something you want to consider when thinking about your date. You want to make sure that it is something you will both enjoy – you don’t want either one of you feeling rubbish and not enjoying yourself, this doesn’t bode well for a second date – and any more consecutive dates. So what can you do to ensure your first date goes swimmingly?
Choose The Perfect Place
It sound so simple but location really is everything. First of all, you have to remember that no matter how long you have been talking online to this person, you don’t know them from Adam. Choose somewhere that is public should the date go awry but in a location that is enjoyable to both of you in case the date goes really, really well. If you are both movie buffs, perhaps consider the local cinema or if you are both foodies, head to the most prestigious restaurant in your area. This way, you are exploring your interests together whilst also considering your safety in such a situation.
Ask For Suggestions
It shouldn’t be up to just one of you to set up the date – both of you need to make an input so this is where suggestions come in. As I mentioned above, location is everything – so chat about the things you enjoy, make suggestions and finally settle on somewhere that both of you can agree on. Don’t completely take the lead or let them completely take the lead – it means the date will be tipped slightly in their favour as they are making all the decisions and you may not enjoy yourself as your thoughts may not have been taken into consideration.
Have A Plan B
Sometimes our best kept plans can go awry and this is exactly why you should always have a backup plan. The point of a first date is to impress each other so if you both feel that the location of the date or something similar isn’t right, take it somewhere else. Some people can’t be themselves without some background chatter so a bar may be more their scene than a cinema – it is all about working out what is right for you and your date and making sure you are both comfortable.
Keep The Conversation Flowing
Talk about yourself, ask questions about them. Don’t talk overly about yourself but don’t completely focus on them – some people won’t like it. What should you talk about on a first date? Compliment them, talk about the day you’ve had and anything that may have happened on your way to the date – as long as it is interesting, of course! – and ask how their day was. Chat about your surroundings, about things you notice – the food in the restaurant, the drinks at the bar. You can make a conversation out of everything so give it a try!
Alone Time Is Key
Once you’re sure that the date has gone well and you feel safe and secure and that a second date is what you want, then you need to secure some alone time. When you are in a bar, a restaurant, a cinema, it can seem like you are the only two people there but this is rarely the case and getting some alone time with each other at the end of the date is a surefire way to find out if you two are going to head out on another date and just how your date feels about you. It is literally the best way to evaluate a date and see whether there is any potential for the future. Perhaps walk each other to your cars or take a walk down the street together to the Tube – if a spark is there, something is bound to happen after the date – but who will make the first move?
These are just a few tips and of course there are many more. Will you be taking any of these on board?