We have now been engaged for 5+ years and seem no closer to saying ‘I Do’. The funds just don’t seem to be there. Don’t get me wrong, we’ve talked about booking the registry office for a cheap price and just taking the kids and our parents and get it done – with a party for our other family and friends afterwards to celebrate- but we are actually still no closer to arranging anything.
Could 2018 be the year? Well, finances don’t allow it right now but who is to know what 2018 could bring. I keep looking at venues – whether they be small registry offices locally or more larger venues such as Botleys Mansion (a place that completely epitomises everything we want from a wedding venue!). We’ve looked locally and we’ve looked further afield. We’ve looked at the lower price points and the higher price points – determined to work out what we would possibly be able to afford and what we want from our wedding.
There is nothing wrong with a long engagement but this was never our intention. We originally planned for 2014/2015 but we just couldn’t get a start on wedding savings then we planned to possibly get married soon after but we had two pregnancies in quick succession (one unsuccessful, the other resulting in Olivia) so the idea got pushed to the sidelines again.
Now Olivia has just turned one, it is something we are probably going to consider again. She’s starting to take little guided steps and she is now standing on her own two feet for a few seconds by herself. I don’t want to get married until she can walk down the aisle as my flower girl but I don’t see that being too long now and I am certain she will be walking by summer so this would be the perfect time for us to finally get married, don’t you think?
Obviously I would need to feel confident in myself – no one wants to look back on their big day with regrets – so hopefully by the time we get married, I will have achieved one of my 2018 goals by hitting my target weight. I want to feel good about myself so getting married before I have lost this extra weight is a total no-no.
There are so many things to consider when it comes to wedding – but sometimes I do feel ready to just jack in all the planning and head down to get a marriage certificate before getting wed at the local registry office. But I am not sure if that is what Steve and I truly want. We don’t want to be over the top, that isn’t our style – but I am pretty sure we both want the whole shebang that a wedding brings. A gorgeous venue such as a mansion or country house, the right dress, the right food, the right people. Our priorities have changed over the years – our families have changed, some friends have disappeared off of the scene – those people that were important in our lives back in 2012 may not be anymore.
Will 2018 be the year? I don’t know – perhaps. But that doesn’t stop me looking at venues and dresses and dreaming, does it? Where did you or will you get married?
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I hope this is the year for you x
Fingers crossed 2018 is your year- and mine too! I have high hopes for this year!
I don’t think long engagements are bad as long as the couple are still happy, but I’d love for you to receive a little windfall to make your dream wedding a reality. Here’s hoping!
We are getting engaged at the end of this month. One idea we have is making the actual wedding as cheap as humanly possible then have a wicked honeymoon. The costs of booking a place for a wedding are astronomical and would easily pay for an amazing holiday. Whatever you decide, good luck and have a great day:)
I like your idea,save enough to get married,even if its in front of just family. You can always do a wedding celebration is the spring when money is better and the weather is warmer. I really can sense your longing and desire to be properly wedded,take it from me,its a joyous and awesome day!! 11 years later and I can tell you every detail of our wedding day! Do it!!!
It would be so nice if this is your year to get married. I don’t know how long I’d stay engaged before getting married as I’d like it to only be about 18 months but realistically I think for finances it would need to be longer x
Fingers crossed that this is the year for you. Weddings can be expensive, but they really don’t have to be.
I really hope 2018 is your year to get married, weddings are expensive but you can cut down so much and do it for a fraction of the price x
We were engaged for 4 years before finally deciding it was time to get married. In the end we opted for a registry office and I planned the whole thing in 6 weeks! But it suited as we aren’t really party people and the small number was lovely to have. Plus we just went out for a meal after and we loved it. Whatever you do decide, I hope it’s right for the both of you x
Sometimes setting the date gives you the incentive to push yourself to lose weight and start saving and budgeting for a wedding. Good luck and we hope 2018 is the year for you!
You never know if this would be the year. Sometimes life brings you spontaneous moments and who knows, maybe you will be booking that country manor sooner than you expect it. Having the right people at your wedding is the most important thing in my opinion.
We never had the funds either and if we were to do it again, I would opt to go to Vegas with friends and repeat. It really took the stress out of everything.
We’re actually beating you on the engagement length, Rebecca! LOL. We’ve been engaged for ten and a half years! I don’t think we’ll ever get married if I’m honest. I just can’t imagine myself walking down an aisle. Keeping everything crossed that you get the wedding you want and deserve soon 🙂
Louise x