Have you heard of Humanism? It might be one of those words that you can’t quite place – you’ve heard it here and there but don’t know what it is, exactly. Or you might be very familiar with the idea or have attended a Humanist service in the past. Whatever your relationship with Humanism, this blog isn’t here to tell you to choose a Humanist Celebrant for your service, whether a wedding or a wake. Hopefully, instead, this blog will give you a bit more information about the concept so, when it comes to choosing how to best celebrate the life of someone close to you, you can make the right choice.
If you are atheist, or even agnostic, it may be that a Humanist service is right for you. You can build the ceremony that you want and will be able to choose a celebrant who will talk to you and guide you throughout their writing process to choose exactly the right words to commemorate your loved one. It is a deeply personal process but can also add a lightness to what might otherwise be a very sad occasion.
As a philosophy, Humanism looks to reason and evidence to understand the universe. It means being responsible for ourselves as well as the universe around us. Because Humanists don’t believe in an afterlife, they think we have a responsibility to find happiness in this life and, as much as we can, to help others do the same.
Humanist celebrants are not able to work in a denominational venue, so you will need to choose somewhere which can cater for that, as your guests, such as https://www.seckford.co.uk/occasions/funerals-and-wakes/
Coping with grief is one of life’s biggest challenges. Everyone handles losing someone they love in a different way and, although the stages of grief can provide a rough overview of what you, or someone close to you, might be experiencing, not everyone will show the signs and sometimes that can be even harder than dealing with a person who is outwardly grieving and emotional. It is worth researching ways you can manage your loss and seeking support if you need it. Choosing a Humanist celebrant might be a support, giving you the opportunity to talk about the life and good memories of the person who has passed away. But remember, they are not a trained counsellor and so finding someone to talk to, and share your feelings with, may be of more help.
Practice looking after yourself and remember, if you are struggling with grief, you are not alone.