To A First Time Mum Me…

To A First Time Mum Me…

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Dear First Time Mum Rebecca,

I know you are struggling right now. You don’t think you are cut out for this and I can understand your foreboding – Jack was late and your meltdown the week before his birth is completely okay – all mums get like that sometimes.

I know that you have felt like a failure because of the first few days of being a mum – it isn’t your fault that you got an infection during labour and that things had to change. I know that you planned to exclusively breastfeed and unfortunately this hasn’t been able to happen but Jack is thriving being combination fed – and you have a great support network around you with Steve, your parents, in-laws and your fantastic health visitor, Philippa. You really lucked out with that health visitor – she’s great.


I know you’ve been looking around at the items you’ve got or been given for Jack and that you’ve realised some of them are utterly useless. Unfortunately that is just a rite of passage as a first time mum – you buy or get given absolutely every baby product on the market and realise eventually that you don’t even need half of them.

You’ll be the one to carry on your Dad’s story – remember when he swung you up in the air and you threw up into his open mouth? Steve will swing Jack and he will decide to try to do the same to you – but luckily you move out the way just in time. Oh, how you’ll laugh about it. You’ll also be able to take great pleasure at not being the parent who has to experience the first time Jack discovers the contents of his nappy and tries to eat them, be thankful about that!


Your first aid kit and medicine cupboard will be stocked up to the brim with all you think you could need, whether cosmetic or medicinal- thermometer, Calpol and Vicks BabyRub which helps your baby to be more relaxed, mostly because of the lovely mild fragrances of rosemary, lavender and aloe vera. Believe me, Vicks will prove invaluable when your baby isn’t feeling well or is suffering with their teething – and boy will Jack suffer with his teeth. I don’t mean to worry you but your second child will suffer even more..

You’ll soon find yourself in a routine and it will really work with you – plus Vicks BabyRub will help with that routine. It is gentle enough and helps baby to feel calm and relaxed before they go to sleep, calming and relaxing you as a parent too.

You may not think you are doing a great job but believe me, you really are. You are still young and the world may seem against you at times but remember, people are there to help you and with families as big as yours and Steve’s, there are always plenty of people to help you out.

Enjoy these first few weeks and months of being a mum, they’re amazing!

Love Rebecca x

My Wishes For This Year

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We all have goals and targets to hit each year but do you ever have any wishes? These may not be achievable or even semi achievable like goals and targets are but something you really hope does happen. I’ve got a few – how about?

Get Debt Free

This is probably a pipe dream at the moment as it doesn’t seem to be getting anywhere although we do expect some financial freedom hopefully this year so it could happen. It all remains to be seen so I’m keeping this as a wish without getting my hopes up too much.

Lose The Weight

This is possible but I must admit I am struggling a little bit. Sometimes all I want is that super stodgy food and it isn’t always possible. Plus I love a good curry or pizza and don’t get me started on chocolate. I believe I can do this but I am still wishing just in case I sabotage myself.

Help My Family & Friends Kick Bad Habits

I’ve got a few family members and friends trying to kick habits such as smoking and I wish they would be able to – I’m hoping to help them. I’ve recently heard about AYRLabs and their new launch, AYR+ – a platform to help the smokers of the world go nicotine free. Combining the vaping experience with a connected app, it monitors your nicotine levels and gives you advice and support on how to reduce your nicotine levels until you are nicotine free. I think this would be very helpful for my loved ones who really struggle to quit because they would be seeing the information in real time.

Go On Holiday

At this point in time, this doesn’t look like this will be happening. We can’t afford one at the moment and we can’t seem to agree on somewhere to go that would fit our budget if we could. I’ll keep holding out hope, entering competitions and seeing if I can win one – worth a try, eh?

Get A Good Night’s Sleep Finally

I’m still yet to get a decent nights sleep since Olivia was born and I am using all my wishes to hope that at some point this year I manage it. She’s getting better at sleeping so hopefully it won’t be too long but I don’t remember a time when I didn’t feel exhausted already upon getting up in the morning. Just once it would be nice to feel fresh and awake, right?

Do you have any wishes for 2018? What sort of things do you hope happen in your life and the lives of your loved ones? I’d love to hear them, no matter how obscure you may think them to be!

If Money Was No Object…

If Money Was No Object…

This is a collaborative post.

We all know what we would do if we won the lottery – but what if money was no object? Some people may say they are one and the same but we’ve all heard the stories of people spending all their lottery money and being left with nothing once again – there was even an article this weekend about a man who did just that. I know exactly what I would do if I won the lottery but there is so much more I could do if money was truly no object.

Make My Families Houses More Accessible

It is my deepest regret that I never had the finances to do this for my Dad before he passed away and I wish I had the finances to do it now for my grandparents. I would love to make their houses more accessible. My grandparents currently have a stairlift but there is so much more that could be done for them that would help with their mobility. Neither of them can use the bath anymore and find the bathroom quite hard to get around so I would love to be able to put in a walk in shower for them. They also have that weird setup where their toilet is in one room on its own and the sink and the bath are in another – I’d love to knock down the wall between them to make it easier to get from A to B.

I have other family members who have mobility problems and I’d love to be able to help them too. Every person should have an accessible house, especially a bathroom. It is a basic need. I’d love to be able to help them live the happiest life they can.

I’d Hire My Mum

I bet it sounds super silly but my mum would never be able to cope without working. I dread to think what she is going to be like when she retires! We’ve always said that should I ever go back to full time or my freelance career takes off in such a way that we would be looking for childcare, that we’d pay my mum and get her out of retail. I’d love to be able to do this – my Mum would love to spend all that time with the kids but she’d still feel like she was working.

I’d Pay Off Debts

My brother is one of my biggest inspirations. He’s done so much for me over the years and if money was no object, I’d love to pay his debts off for him. He borrowed off my Dad to start his business and paid him back and then, like we sometimes do, got hit with an unexpected bill. I’m not sure where he stands right now – he may even have paid it off – but I’d love to have been able to help him out to repay him for all of the times he has helped me. I’d also do the same for my in laws – they are in the process of selling their house but there have been so many problems and these problems are literally guzzling money day to day. I’d love to be able to help them if I could.

I’d Help Family Fulfill Their Dreams

I am quite happy to say that most of my family have achieved what they wanted to do. My cousin has recently completed a golf scholarship in America, another has been going round England talking about Gothic literature. But there are some family members who’ve had to shelve their dreams for certain reasons, including financial. I’d love to eventually to be able to help them to fulfill their dreams.

What would you do?

Celebrating My 28th Birthday

Celebrating My 28th Birthday

At the end of this month, I turn 28. Just two more years until the big 3-0. I haven’t really done much on my birthdays in recent years – least of all last year when Olivia was just three weeks old. This year, though, I would like to do something – I’m just not sure what.

Perhaps some drinks with some friends – one of my friends is having drinks next weekend and has said I can make it a joint thing with her. Maybe a meal out with Steve – but that requires babysitting. Maybe booking a last minute party at my local hall – it is affordable and there is sure to be some availability close to my birthday. Yes, I’d need to hire some entertainment quite last minute – I’d use Headliner as they cover all bases (bands, DJ’s, musicians in various genres and various locations – I’m bound to find some entertainment that suits me and my guests) and just hope that my guests could make it fairly last minute.

Why now do I want to do something to celebrate when there is just over two weeks? Well, after participating in the Best Foot Forward linky with other bloggers, I realise that I really don’t do that much for myself or by myself. It would be nice to actually treat myself on my birthday for once whilst doing something special, thinking about me for once.

I’m not getting any younger and birthdays are that one day a year where everything can be about you and it is okay to be a little bit selfish – so why not? A small party, a meal out with family, some drinks with friends – anything would be nice to break the monotone of staying in, don’t you think?

I’m not asking for anything big and fancy – just something a little more special than my day to day for the other 364 days of the year. January is a boring and depressing month as it is, I’d like to liven it up a little. The only problem is everyone is still so poor from Christmas that hardly anyone ever actually makes it out for my birthday – perhaps I should be like the Queen and have two!

I’ve still got just over two weeks to go so I am going to get my thinking cap on and decide what I want to do – I’ll be sure to let you know when I decide. How do you think I should celebrate my birthday this year? Have you got any special ideas – perhaps something unique?



The Magic Of A Moment

The Magic Of A Moment

It is amazing what memories and moments photographs can capture. You look back on a photo and remember all those good times, all those experiences. The magic of a moment is something unforgettable but sometimes we take ages to get the perfect photo because of lighting issues.

My mum recently found some photos from when I was younger and one in particular caught my eye. I don’t own many pictures of myself from when I was younger and definitely not many of my family and I – we just didn’t seem to take them in recent years. Back when I was little though, the camera always seemed to be out and ever since my Dad passed away, those photos mean so much more.

Whilst my Dad isn’t in the below picture, it means so much to me for various reasons. It seems like an ‘of the moment’ snapshot where the light just happened to be right and I just happened to be doing something. Of course, this was 25+ years ago so it is never going to be as amazing as those taken today but why is this picture so special to me?

For me, this photo means so much to me as it really captures a moment for me. We are lucky enough to live in a beautiful village and have some lovely family friendly pubs with amazing pub gardens. When I was little, we used to go down to one of the local pubs every Sunday afternoon and meet my uncles, aunties, cousins and other family. I have a big family so it was always lots of fun and no one week was the same. I used to look forward to Sundays just so we could go down, see family and I could stuff my face with cheese and onion crisps. Even if my mum decided not to come down and visited her side of the family instead, I’d still go down there with my dad, having a daddy daughter day. This is why it means so much, it showcases time spent with my Dad that I, of course, can’t get back and will no longer have but which I look upon fondly.

Panasonic have recently unveiled their brand new camera which is an exciting high performance low light camera. You can see more about it here:

This definitely seems like a great camera for all situations – I love that it can be used in low light too. It will really help you to capture your own magic moments.

What magic moments do you have captured on camera?