Feeling Comfortable This Summer

I’ve mentioned that I’ve been struggling with my weight for a while now. Before I had Olivia – and after my miscarriage with the baby before Olivia – I managed to lose a stone and a half quite quickly and seemed destined to continue on with this path – but then I got pregnant with O and the weight started creeping on. Since she’s been born, I keep putting on, losing, putting on, losing – and whilst I am starting to actually lose again properly – I seem to have some semblance of a mojo back – I haven’t been feeling comfortable in myself and what I am wearing at all. I’d love to get the confidence back to wear what I want.

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Something I am really struggling with is underwear. I still breastfeed Olivia at night but have not long weaned off daytime top ups around her meals. This means I was wearing a very unflattering non wired bra until recently and now don’t know what to get to both fit me and suit me. Add to that I don’t think I have any nice underwear sets and you can see that I definitely need a revamp with some new pieces – but I don’t know what suits me!

I’d love to regain some confidence back in myself and my body so I’ve been taking a look at Knix. They claim to be reinventing intimates for real life and they have some lovely items that not only look good but look comfortable too! I’m so fed up of comfortable but boring and ugly clothes or choosing beautiful clothes that are horrible to wear because they just aren’t comfy. Why can’t retailers get it right – we want beautiful stuff that is comfortable too! It seems Knix know that and they’ve got some lovely pieces that I am keen to buy with some spare cash at the end of the month.

I just want to feel comfortable this summer – and for that, I need to feel both comfortable in my own skin and in my clothes. That means those clothes need to make me feel good, both physically and mentally and this means both outerwear and underwear. I think Knix are my answer – what about you?

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Finding The Perfect Summer Shoes

Are you like me? I find it so hard to find the perfect summer shoes to fit my feet. This sometimes leads to me walking around in shoes that either don’t fit, are not weather appropriate or have definitely seen much better days!

Just recently my flats finally gave up the ghost and I’ve been struggling to find a decent pair of shoes that will last me the summer, look good and actually fit my feet. That was until I found the width fitting extra wide selection of shoes at Simply Be. So many gorgeous shoes that may actually fit my feet, yay!

I’ve mentioned before how I love Simply Be – I find they have such a great range of clothing, I can get lost on the site for hours. However I’d never really thought of looking on their site for shoes – until now. There is so much choice that it could possibly seem a little overwhelming to some people – just what shoes do you want? I’ve picked out a handful of my favourites below.

 

CLOCKWISE: Heavenly Soles Sandals EE Fit £25; Casey Lace Ballerina Extra Wide Fit £15; Haley Gladiator Sandals Extra Wide Fit £18; Aja Basic Wedges Extra Wide Fit

What I love is that they are affordable too and such a wide range of different styles, sizes, shapes and colours. No matter if you’re a flat girl (which I would say I probably am), a girl who loves a heel or a wedge or someone who loves some sandals, there will be something for you. It is even starting to make me consider branching out into styles of shoes that I never usually opt for. I mean, you will never see me wandering around in a wedge heel usually as I have all the balance and grace of a newborn foal but perhaps I should give them a try once again when they look as gorgeous as the £18 Aja Basic Wedges I’ve included in my favourites. Do you think I will be able to wear them graciously? I’m not so sure but I may as well give them a try, right?

I think I may have to order a few different pairs to give me enough choice over these hot summer days, especially with the expected heatwaves. What shoes do you tend to wear in the summer? Which are your favourites from the four above? Have you ordered shoes from Simply Be before?

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Finding The Perfect Shoes For Summer

I am a total creature of habit. Winter, I live in boots – perfect for keeping my feet warm and toasty and also keeping me safe in the cold and icy conditions. In summer, I live in ballet flats – but this can be so boring. I want to revitalise my shoe collection and actually try wearing some different types of shoes year round – but it is important that I find a good deal for me.

I recently bought a cheap pair of flats and they’re already on their way out so I am in need of some new shoes that are perfect for summer. Thanks to the fantastic savings on Schuh at Groupon, I believe I am going to be all kitted out in the shoe department for the foreseeable future at a very affordable price! I may even have to kit out the kids with brand new shoes too – we all know how expensive shoe shopping for the kids can get!

But what do I want? I’m not going to lie – I will always pick up a pair of flats as they are just so handy! But with plans ahead to get back into running, I’m going to need some trainers and I would love some sandals for the beach. As you can imagine, this would all add up if I was to purchase them all together. Discounts are a must when it comes to bulk buying, don’t you think?

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I very rarely buy new shoes – only when I absolutely have to – so I always find it difficult. I never know what I want – only the size. The colour, the design – I never know until I see it just what I am looking for and I want to ensure I have the perfect collection to choose from this summer, whatever the weather. Much as I would love to think every day this summer will be flat or sandal or flipflop weather, I think we can all but guarantee there will be some rainy days, perhaps a little cold – so I am probably going to need some new boots today!

I’ve got a few pairs already in my basket and am going to pick up some for the kids too – I think I have finally found the perfect shoes for all of us for summer without breaking the bank. We are sorted for every eventuality and aren’t being creatures of habit, sticking to the same type of shoes. What do you find are the perfect shoes for summer? Do you pick them up when you see a good deal such as the Groupon deal?

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Updating My Wardrobe To Fit My Figure

Over the past few years I’ve gone up and down in dress size. Before I had Jack, I was a size 10/12 then I went up to a size 16 before losing some weight back down to a size 12 again. I then got pregnant with Olivia and am now hovering between a size 16 and a size 18.

As you can imagine, this means the clothes in my wardrobe wildly vary in size. I have decluttered as much as possible of the items that no longer fit but sometimes it is so hard to get rid of some pieces – you want to keep the smaller pieces in case you slim down or the bigger pieces in case you don’t. This means my wardrobe has so many different clothes but barely anything of one particular size. I’ve got skirts in one size, trousers in another and I desperately need to update my clothing.

I’ve been looking at some plus size items like the ones you can see here. I will admit that I am not totally comfortable with my figure so I tend to dress quite drab – baggy clothes, often black in colour. But I don’t want this to always be the case – especially with summer fast approaching. I want to be wearing colour, be colourful no matter what size I am rather than dressed all boring in black.

It can be so hard to get out of a rut when it comes to the way you dress. Back about ten years ago, I did love black clothing but I would always love a pop of colour. An outfit wouldn’t be an outfit with some spark of colour to set the outfit off – where did I lose that love of dressing for my figure? It is something I desperately need to learn again, I want to love dressing for myself again – that’s not too much to ask is it?

I’m going to be adding bits and pieces to my wardrobe every couple of weeks until I finally have a clothing collection that both fits my figure and makes me happy. It may take a while to collate it all together but it will definitely be worth it in the end – and I can sell on the items that no longer fit or make me unhappy to recoup the cash I spend on new items.  

Do you update your wardrobe often? Do you have any tips for me on how I can really get the most out of my clothing collection?

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Empowered women and the rise of the self-love ring

There is a new trend emerging for women and it’s all about self-appreciation and self-loving. It is the rise of the self-love ring; some women are even taking it as far as marrying themselves and others are in a relationship referred to as ‘sologamy’. Together with Angelic Diamonds, retailers of engagement rings, we take a closer look at the trend and how women are showing off their independence.

Where did it originate from?

The popularity of a self-love ring began to soar in 2016, as many women turned to jewellery stores to make a commitment to themselves. It’s not known exactly what drove the trend, as women have been preaching self-appreciation for many years! But it could be down to a combination of these things:

  • The rise of social media platforms like Snapchat and Instagram has encouraged women to love themselves. Although seeing filtered beach bodies on our news feed isn’t always great, there have been many women who have posted photos of their natural selves too and persuaded others to do the same. For example, there was a trend which involved ‘No Make-up Selfies’ — a photo of yourself without make-up. Many celebrities participated in this and told women to love their natural selves! The selfie culture in general pushes women to appreciate their bodies, as they post photos of themselves and receive ‘likes’ and comments from their friends and family.
  • The influence of celebrities has encouraged women to love themselves too. Many famous figures have talked about their tough times growing up and how they’ve learnt to appreciate themselves. Others have encouraged magazines and photographers to not edit their photos so that women can see that their bodies are not in fact flawless.
  • There has also been a rise in participants of meditation and mindfulness — taking time out of the day to be present within yourself. Research has shown that it can reduce stress, depression and anxiety and experts encourage people to take time out of their day to focus on Meditation interlinks with self-love as it focuses on taking time out of the day to concentrate on yourself.

The self-love rings

Some people are referring to them as anti-engagement rings, but that’s not what they’re all about. They are meant to represent one’s commitment to oneself and a dedication that you’ll put yourself first and look after your own well-being. They are meant to be worn on your little finger — to represent a ‘pinky promise’ to yourself. Some jewellers offered specific ‘pinky’ rings but they can be bought as a smaller regular engagement ring.

Those who practise self-love have said that when you love yourself, you change the way that you act and this can positively affect your relationship as you no longer rely on your partner to make you happy.

Some females purchase a self-love ring with their best friends to focus on the importance of friendship and make a pledge that you’ll both love yourselves.

Marrying yourself

Some women have taken the concept even further, organising a ceremony of self-marriage. The first sologamous wedding was thought to be in 1993, when an American woman called Linda Barker married herself in front of her close friends.

Marrying yourself is not a legal process (you can’t divorce yourself, claim legal fees and your marital status won’t change), instead it is simply a celebration, although vows can be made. It appears as though it is more women who are taking part in this than men, possibly as a protest against the pressures that they often feel to be in a relationship.

When asked why women married themselves some comments were:

  • The ceremony was a deep act of self-acceptance, saying your commitments out loud in front of friends and family solidified them.
  • It was a celebration of the commitment to the health, well-being, and happiness of oneself.

It’s not just for the single woman either. Some women who have gone through the ceremony have partners and husbands, but this day was all about them! A company has been created on the back of these ceremonies called I Married Me — it offers wedding supplies to one-person ceremonies.

Demonstrating to yourself that you’re confident and empowered doesn’t have to come in the form of a ring. There’s other ways to show your love for yourself — treat yourself to some clothing that you’ve been wanting for a while, have a spa day or just invest some time into you!

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