Collaborative Post
Looking forward to that proposal but not quite willing to wait in silent anticipation? The good news is that your thoughts tend to align with those of the majority of couples these days. While men traditionally still pop the question, women tend to be a lot more involved in the process, nowadays. But just how involved do you want to be in the process? Here are a few options to consider.
Talking about the future
Surprise engagements are becoming rarer and, honestly, that’s for the best. Too many people have had their hearts broken, and too many people feel pressed to make a hasty decision. Instead, more and more people are talking in advance about whether or not they want to get married and where they see the relationship going. Even if you don’t plan on popping that question yourself, try to get your partner involved in the conversation. The proposal can still be unexpected, but at least you can rest assured it will be a pleasant surprise rather than a total shock.
Go ring shopping together
An engagement ring is a piece of jewellery that you will expect to wear for the rest of your life. As much as it might have emotional value, whatever shape it comes in, we all want to make sure that we’re happy and comfortable with showing it off and looking at it every day. If you have a taste for Tiffany style engagement rings and you end up getting something more contemporary and minimalist, it won’t detract from the proposal, but it can detract from the experience of wearing the ring. Instead, why not forget popping open the box and go get some rings together.
Popping that question
If you’re feeling particularly confident and you’re sure that your partner will respond in the way that you want, then you can join the increasing ranks of women who are making the proposal instead of simply waiting for it. If you’re feeling a little nervous about it, then you can read the stories of women who proposed to their partner and how they got through it. Otherwise, make sure you plan pretty meticulously so that nothing goes wrong and you can rely on the setting to be perfect. Or simply be ready to propose when the moment feels right.
Be careful how he might react
More men are getting less strung up about traditional relationship roles, but there are still some out there who might not react well to a woman proposing. Even if they do like the idea, they might not be comfortable with certain scenarios or ways of doing it. For instance, if you know that your partner doesn’t really like public displays of affection or making a scene, then proposing to them in a public place could potentially be a huge mistake.
Don’t worry about whether or not it’s traditional for you to get stuck in. If you want to get married to your partner then, by all means, go for it.