For anyone who’s just gotten engaged, we want you to keep one thing in mind over the next few months: you’re probably going to have a few more arguments than usual! It’s easy to butt heads with your partner over your upcoming nuptials, and it’s totally normal to do so as well.
However, arguments can make you feel anxious and stressed in a time when you really don’t need these feelings to pile on the pressure! But the more you’re prepared for moments like these, the easier your wedding prep is going to be.
You can work together as a couple to create a big day you can both look forward to, and even if you get a bit frustrated with each other, these three tips will keep you looking to the future.
Make the Must Have List Together
From your guest list to your registry to the flowers that are going to be displayed on the tables, make sure you’re both present when the must have list is made.
You don’t want to be arguing over who gets to come, where they get to sit, and whether or not you can have some roses in with the carnations!
If you both agree on at least ten things that need to be at your wedding, and you’re able to agree on who absolutely needs to be there, everything else will be a total breeze to deal with!
Put a Firm Limit on the Budget
You both need to agree on how much the wedding is going to cost. Even if you can’t agree about anything else, this is the one thing that needs a mutual agreement! After all, you can’t spend money you don’t have, and if your partner isn’t comfortable with taking out a wedding loan (while you are), there’s going to be some simmering resentment in your financial future.
This means you may have to find different mens wedding suits or bridesmaid dresses, or you may need to have the honeymoon somewhere a little cheaper, but it does mean you’re both going to head down the aisle knowing you paid what you wanted and there’s no debt hanging over your heads.
Come Up with a Script for Pushy Family Members
Every family has a pushy member who thinks their opinions are worth ten times more than anyone else’s, including the actual bride and groom’s.
To keep these members from getting too involved in the top table planning, and to prevent them from making you feel small and insignificant on your big day, develop a script you can both use to tell them to stay out of things.
This way you both have canned responses to use whenever someone gets overbearing, and you don’t have to try and explain your way out of rejecting a bad idea.
Wedding planning can be extremely tense, but the more you seek to work together and understand the importance of doing so, the less arguments you’re going to have.