We have now been engaged for 5+ years and seem no closer to saying ‘I Do’. The funds just don’t seem to be there. Don’t get me wrong, we’ve talked about booking the registry office for a cheap price and just taking the kids and our parents and get it done – with a party for our other family and friends afterwards to celebrate- but we are actually still no closer to arranging anything.
Could 2018 be the year? Well, finances don’t allow it right now but who is to know what 2018 could bring. I keep looking at venues – whether they be small registry offices locally or more larger venues such as Botleys Mansion (a place that completely epitomises everything we want from a wedding venue!). We’ve looked locally and we’ve looked further afield. We’ve looked at the lower price points and the higher price points – determined to work out what we would possibly be able to afford and what we want from our wedding.
There is nothing wrong with a long engagement but this was never our intention. We originally planned for 2014/2015 but we just couldn’t get a start on wedding savings then we planned to possibly get married soon after but we had two pregnancies in quick succession (one unsuccessful, the other resulting in Olivia) so the idea got pushed to the sidelines again.
Now Olivia has just turned one, it is something we are probably going to consider again. She’s starting to take little guided steps and she is now standing on her own two feet for a few seconds by herself. I don’t want to get married until she can walk down the aisle as my flower girl but I don’t see that being too long now and I am certain she will be walking by summer so this would be the perfect time for us to finally get married, don’t you think?
Obviously I would need to feel confident in myself – no one wants to look back on their big day with regrets – so hopefully by the time we get married, I will have achieved one of my 2018 goals by hitting my target weight. I want to feel good about myself so getting married before I have lost this extra weight is a total no-no.
There are so many things to consider when it comes to wedding – but sometimes I do feel ready to just jack in all the planning and head down to get a marriage certificate before getting wed at the local registry office. But I am not sure if that is what Steve and I truly want. We don’t want to be over the top, that isn’t our style – but I am pretty sure we both want the whole shebang that a wedding brings. A gorgeous venue such as a mansion or country house, the right dress, the right food, the right people. Our priorities have changed over the years – our families have changed, some friends have disappeared off of the scene – those people that were important in our lives back in 2012 may not be anymore.
Will 2018 be the year? I don’t know – perhaps. But that doesn’t stop me looking at venues and dresses and dreaming, does it? Where did you or will you get married?